
The number 3 is an important number to us humans. We count to 3 when doing things; things “come in threes”; it takes 3 repetitions to master something. How can you use the number 3 when communicating with your cat?
Use the Number 3 when Communicating with your cat
A few of the reasons people count to 3 are:
- To coordinate actions with other people. For example, when two people team lift a heavy item, one person often counts to 3 with the lift happening on 3.
- Counting to 3 helps you focus on a new task and get ready to do it.
- Parents often count to 3 to let a child know that if they don’t obey, there will be a consequence.
Use The Number 3 when Communicating with Your Cat: the 1-2-3 Pause
Simple verbal commands like “sit ” quickly become automatic and the cat will sit without giving much thought to the process. More complex verbal requests require the cat to engage in conscious thought. A pause gives your cat the time to process a complex verbal cue (Reference 1).
Cats learn language via associative learning – they connect a sound (word) with an experience. For example, when learning the word for “shoulders”, they associate the word with the touch to their shoulders.
If you say to your cat, “Can I touch your shoulders? “, several things will happen while the cat processes your request.
- The cat must recognize the word “shoulders”.
- The cat must connect the sound “shoulders” with the sensation of having their shoulders touched.
- The cat must decide if they want their shoulders touched. The cat might show their willingness to be touched by raising their shoulders up or signal their aversion to being touched by cringing.
Giving the cat a counting pause, whether you say it silently or aloud, gives them time to process the words and transition from hearing the command to performing the action (Reference 1).
My cat, Gus, is an inveterate counter surfer at meal times. Telling him repeatedly to “get down” usually falls on deaf ears, as he tunes out the request as noise. Adding a 1-2-3 pause and a consequence (being picked up) is much more successful (Reference 2).
Me: “Get down from the counter or I will pick you up. On the count of 3: 1-2-3”
Gus: Sometimes he gets down on 1 or 2; Sometimes he gets down on 3 and occasionally he gets picked up.
However, this has been the most successful strategy to get him off the counter (including spray bottles) and away from the food preparation.
Use the number 3 when communicating with your cat: The rule of three
The “Rule of Three” is an instructional principle used in teaching people. The “Rule of Three” says that students need to be given the opportunity to learn something at least three times before they can be expected to know it and apply it (Reference 3).
When teaching your cat a new cue or word, do 3 repetitions, then start to use the cue or word when appropriate. If you repeat and repeat the instruction, you run the risk of the cat becoming bored and confused, and ignoring the cue.
the rule of three and giving eye drops to miso
My cat, Miso, needed eye drops the other week to clear up an eye irritation. I used the rule of three: I showed Miso the bottle of drops, letting him sniff it. I did a first trial without giving drops, narrating the process. This was followed by a second “drop-free” trial, again narrating the process. The third time, with narration, I gave the drops.
Me to Miso: “Will you sit? Good sit! I am going put a drop in your right eye. Here is the bottle; I’ll hold it in my hand and tilt your head back. Then on the count of three, we’ll do the drops 1-2-3. Then you get a treat “. [I repeated this a second time, then gave the drops on the third trial].
Miso: “Looks scary” [1st time]. “Still looks scary” [2nd time]. “Oh, it’s done! Where’s my treat?” [3rd time]
On subsequent days, I aimed for “one-and-done”: I showed Miso the bottle, narrated the process, counted to 3 and gave the drops.
Note: Miso is used to having his head held while I brush his teeth. He is also familiar with the words, “head”, “eyes” and “ears”.
People count to three to establish rhythm, build a pattern, or make a decision. Things presented in triads are thought to be easier to learn. Consider using a 1-2-3 pause when giving your cat complex instructions and limiting the repetition of commands to three. Use the number 3 when communicating with your cat!
references
- Cover, Kayce. Give Power and Choice, “Training with Kayce: podcast. June 23, 2026. https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=mlgr4orPv4k
- Cover, Kayce. Perception Modification, Conditioned Relaxation & IF-THEN Conditional Statements. January 12, 2015. https://youtu.be/kIz_D9VUJGY?si=vDqeYPWKOrQMXOni
- Johnson, Ben. Using the Rule of 3 for Learning. April 27, 2016. https://www.edutopia.org/blog/using-rule-three-learning-ben-johnson. viewed June 27, 2026.
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